Desperate, guilty, and hopeful, she types to the members of her favorite Facebook group:
“I’m tired and can’t get myself to work on anything right now. Any ideas to help me get going?”
People start to chime in with understanding and empathetic intros, followed with advice to keep going, do more, push past the feeling.
Encouraging, supporting, cheering her on.
I type the same. However, after hitting send, something doesn’t feel right. When I truly put myself in her shoes, breathe into that experience and remember with full honesty how it feels, I want to hug her and say, “Just pause, it’s okay.”
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Bears hibernate. The tide comes in and goes back out. Bulbs retreat underground, only to have the energy to push through the soil and bloom again.
You must do the same. It’s okay to slow down. Honor when you want to take a rest.
However, this is easier said than done.
There was a point when my inbox was a hub of great ideas. I was subscribed to some amazing bloggers, doing some epic things. There wasn’t a week that went by where there wasn’t a free challenge to take, or a workbook to go through or a webinar to watch. I wanted to sign up for them all.
Be a good student.
Get the A.
But, if I really listened to my body, and intuition, I would have recognized sooner that each time I opened my inbox, I felt tense, contracted, heavy, flooded.
And it wasn’t just my inbox, my social media notifications kept climbing. That red dot made my phone heavy.
Time to pause:
I unsubscribed from almost all the email lists I was on. I deleted access to social media from my phone.
I gave myself permission to stop posting on social platforms that didn’t light me up.
I paused blogging.
I took back control of my time, my attention and this one precious life I have.
Of course, I got FOMO and knew I was turning away great content by some amazing people. But for me, in that moment, I had to.
I had to, and also knew I could also dive back in when the time felt right. I could always resubscribe and get back in the flow of social media.
There’s always a natural rhythm to creating.
Here’s what happened when I gave myself permission to pause:
I strengthened the foundation of my writing and business.
I felt more connected to myself and others.
I felt more free, not less.
I started to create from a place of abundance and not of lack.
I actually got more done by slowing down.
Now I’m sitting writing this and I feel excited to write. Excited to post. I feel more confident, clear and alive in the creative process.
As the internet starts to flood with planning for the next year, and as you start thinking of all that you need to do, all that you want to do, and all that you should be doing but haven’t yet, pause. Tell yourself you are enough.
And when you’re inevitably guided to slow down, I’m here to give you a virtual hug and encourage you to trust your intuition. Unsubscribe, close the app, or simply, take the day off to unplug, read some fiction, watch a bad movie.
And don’t worry, what you’re working towards is alive in you, and it will continue to unfold as you surrender into a savasana after having stretched outward. Come back to center and allow all that you’ve been working on to settle so you can go forward rejuvenated, aligned and with more energy and clarity.
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